Making Money Matters: A letter to my Grandmothers
Sincerely, Future You - Life Coach Jessica McKinley Uyeno
Whenever I make a lot of money, I picture my grandmas saying, “I fucking love this for you!”
This episode of Sincerely, Future You is a letter dedicated to my four grandmas, especially to my nana who recently passed away. May she rest in peace.
All four played an important role in why I believe making money (and lots of it) is not only possible but MATTERS. Tune in to learn the 10 reasons why and how my grandmas built the foundation for my healthy money mindset.
I hope this episode inspires you, as my grandma's inspired mine.
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Jessica McKinley 0:01
I want to talk to you all about why it matters, that you make money. A lot of times I have a client that will say to me, I just want to have a big life. And I want to have an impactful business. But it's not about the money for me. And this is really confusing to me, because to me, they're all the same thing.
Jessica McKinley 0:30
Welcome to Sincerely, Future You a podcast that helps ambitious women like you make decisions today with the future you in mind.
Jessica McKinley 0:41
Hi, Happsters, this is a very special episode for me, because I want to dedicate this episode to my grandmother's, but especially to my Nana, who is my father's mother, she passed away two weeks ago, and I've just been thinking about her so much lately. And I've been thinking about how mind blown, she was about what I do for work. I think she never quite wrapped her brain around it. She just kept saying, I'm so proud of you. And I can't believe that you make money doing this. And I can't believe it either you guys. And I want to talk to you all about why it matters, that you make money. A lot of times I have a client that will say to me, I just want to have a big life. And I want to have an impactful business. But it's not about the money for me. And this is really confusing to me, because to me, they're all the same thing. And to me, this just indicates that you don't have a healthy and loving relationship with your money, which I think is a real problem. Because it's going to cause you to limit your impact that you're having with your offer, it's going to cause you to show up in some people pleasing. And we can't have that. And so I'm going to talk to you about the reasons that the 10 reasons that it matters that you make a lot of money. And then I'm going to tell you a little bit about my personal experience of my four grandmother's and their experience with money and why it matters for them. Okay, so, reason number one it matters is that money earned is a direct reflection of the perceived value you're adding to the world. Don't deprive the world of your value. Notice I said perceived value. Because sometimes people act like when they set a price, they're somehow going to rob their clients of this money. But I say perceived value because the client or your customer has to agree. They're the one that are determining the value, because they're paying you that price. And when you have value and you put that out in the world in terms of a price, they will perceive and feel your value and then they buy from you so important. Number two, making lots of money requires you to access your most creative and unique thoughts, these spill over into the rest of your life. I have had to get scrappy over the last couple of years, in order to figure out the ways that I was going to scale my business, not just in making lots of money, but also in a way that felt amazing to me in a way that honored my values in my personal life with my own time, and also my values with my clients so that I wasn't just selling them something that was what they thought was the problem. But I was willing to take a longer in order to explain to them that they may think this is the problem. But there's there other problems that are actually causing them. It's actually their feelings, it's actually their thoughts. And they might that might be a lot less sexy of a cell. But I was willing to get really creative in order to sell my audience on the real problem so that that when they come in, they get the immense value. Okay, number three is making lots of money requires lots of failure. The better you get at failing, the more resilient you become. And a resilient woman is someone the world's cannot do without number four. When you make lots of money and are transparent about it. Other people with your obstacles start believing in their ability to do it too. When I became a single mom, when I was divorced, when I was just really, some people didn't even know that I was divorced or single moms and people just saw me with young kids making lots of money and still having time. And this was something that allowed them to feel inspired and to believe in their own possibility. Who can you do that for? Who can you be an example for? Number five, making lots of money requires you to play bigger, pursuing big happy money makes you feel alive. Number six, when good people make more money, the whole world benefits. So if you're a good person, and you think that you can show that by saying that the money isn't what you're doing it for, you're confused, because when you have more money, you can do more good. I'm able to give more, I was able this year, my dad retired, and they're in a new financial position. And I was able to fly my whole family, which costs a lot for some random reason this, Christmas, 1000s of dollars down to Miami so that we can be closer to them. And we can do what is easier for everyone else. And I could afford to do that weren't in past years of my life, I couldn't afford to do that. And it would have been a burden on my family. Okay, when number seven, making lots of money confirms that money isn't the point. And that it doesn't make you feel better. It does give you the resources to manage what does matter, which is your mind. Okay, so now that I have more money, I can spend more money on mine management. And I have such a more luscious experience of the world, and of my situation and of my problems and of my goals, right? So it does give you the resources that you need. Number eight, lots of money, when properly manage creates more time. So if what you're looking for isn't more money, it's more time, more money can be the path to more time, this whole process compounds. Number nine, if you're not making lots of money, you're focusing too much on you and not on the value of what you offer. Just that one trigger anyone that's listening? Yes. If you're not making lots of money, it's probably because you have a thought of what it's going to mean about you. Okay, not on the value of what you offer on the value of the transaction of what it will do for someone else to be able to even invest in themselves in that way. And number 10, making more money than you knew as possible expands what else you believe is possible. Once I made 200k, it's like something shifted in me. And I was like, what else do I want to do? What else big that I never thought was possible, is now possible to me because I did something that felt impossible. I want that for all of you guys. It matters that you make a lot of money, especially for women. So sometimes when I make a lot of money, I picture my grandma's saying I fucking love this for you. Only two of them curse. So it's extra funny to imagine. Yep, I said only two because I have four grandmas, that's two by blood, and two by remarriage. But they've all played a role in why I believe it's not only possible, but important for me and for you to live a big life and cluding making lots of money. With spacious amounts of time and luxurious amounts of money. That's the life that I'm talking about when I say a big life. So my mom's mom, she was a single mom of four by the time that she was 23. She couldn't even legally apply for a mortgage on her own without a husband. Can you believe that? The things that I do in my business at one point as a single mom blow her mind because it was actually not possible for her. So I do it for her. My dad's mom, my Nana, may she rest in peace. She was the daughter of an entrepreneur actually the only one in my family. And although she was very educated her model of a big life was giving that success to her kids. She never missed a single game of my dad's even when he was in college, a state over playing basketball. And I think the reverse culture has taught us that if we want a career, we can also be that type of mom. I meticulously schedule my fun family and kids important events without telling myself it's one or the other. I expand into that both energy for her. My mom, stepmom, she grew up on a farm with four brothers, she was taught the value of hard work, and wrapped up in that narrative is the idea that creating money should feel hard, and that masculine energy creates the most money. I love the idea that money can be easy. So I do that with ease for her. My dad, stepmom, she grew up as a black woman in Chicago. And I won't casually try and sum up here, the role, we know that racism on top of gender discrimination can play in shaping a person's view of what's possible. But an extravagant life was scantly, modeled by a black woman in her day. And yet she dared to believe it was possible for her anyway. So I help other black woman build, black women believe in their own big life. And I do that for her. Making money is important to honor those who didn't have the same opportunity or thoughts that we get to have today. And to leave a legacy of possibility for future generations of women. 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Jessica McKinley 14:19
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