When the time comes, will you Sink or Swim?

Identity is a complex term. It is partly shaped by things we can control, like the choices we make in work, love, and hobbies. It also includes some things that we may not have control over, like genetics or physical/mental disabilities. But there is a HUGE part of our identity that we often confuse for being out of our control, but IS actually within our control: our instincts.

I know what you’re thinking. Isn’t the definition of instinct “a way of behaving, thinking or feeling that is NOT learned?” Well, yes, if you listen to Merriam-Webster, but those guys have been dead for a long time, so who are you going to trust? 😉

Meet Stretch. I swear she will be the death of me.

Meet Stretch. I swear she will be the death of me.

Let me back up. This morning, my very curious and always troublesome ferret, Stretch, escaped our apartment and began a journey around the complex. While I’m sure it was all fun and games for her, it was not for my husband and me.

My instinct? Panic & Crying 

My husband’s instinct? Anger & Blame

Once she was found, (more…)

Identity & Purpose Experiment #2: Create a Vision Board

CONGRATULATIONS!!! You have discovered your WHY. (If you haven’t already completed Experiment #1, stop reading and go create your Personal Mission Statement first!) You are now a member of the elite group of successful people who know the importance of writing down your goals. Keep your Personal Mission Statement close to you (in your wallet; in a frame on your nightstand or desk) to help keep you on purpose.

That was first things first and this is second things second. You’ve decided why you’re here… NOW, LET’S DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT! (more…)

4 Ways to Make Sure Growing Up Doesn’t Suck

One of the best and hardest parts of our twenties is the part where we grow up. It sounds boring and full of annoying responsibilities like:

  • Fixing your drain problems when hair clogs it up
  • Learning to be politically correct
  • Changing a flat tire
  • Balancing time with family, friends & IN LAWS

And truthfully, that’s part of it; but the more elusive part is deciding who you want to be now that you are independent from your parents and high school friends. What does Adult You look, sound, and act like?

Shut up, Wendy. Being an adult is awesome.

Shut up, Wendy. Being an adult is awesome.

Being an adult is not just an age milestone – it’s a series of choices. Here’s a great way to get started on shaping your adult self. (more…)

Identity & Purpose Experiment #1: Create Your Personal Mission Statement & Discover Your “Why”

Why do you get up in the morning? What motivates you? What are the reasons behind your career, relationship, and other choices? If you already have a life purpose, than you should have no problem answering these questions. But the truth is, most of us haven’t taken the time to clarify the “why” behind everything we do.

While we continue to explore the connection between Identity and Purpose, here is an experiment that will force you to think about both. CEOs, celebrities and politicians alike taut “personal mission statements” as the driving force behind their success, but personal branding (more…)

Are you a Concept Person or a Details Person?

“There are two kinds of people in the world. Those who divide the world into two kinds of people, and those who don’t” – Robert Benchley

Rewind. Two years ago. The morning after Thanksgiving. At approximately 5:45am, a drowsy me and my less drowsy boyfriend-at-the-time, Dustin, sit opposite my Grandpa at his breakfast table, interview style. We had had a wonderful weekend of family fun and as we sipped the last of our coffee and prepared for the 7-hour drive home that lay ahead, I was beginning to think that I had escaped the inevitable interrogation of my longest standing boyfriend. “I’m curious…” my grandfather started, in that measured, lawyer-tone of his. “You two seem like a good pair, but there are some very important qualities that two people need to succeed long-term. Answer me simply. Would you consider yourself a ‘Concept Person’ or a ‘Details Person’?” (more…)