Experiments

Habits Experiment #1: The 6-Minute Miracle Morning

“Focused, productive, successful mornings generate focused, productive, successful days – which inevitably creates a successful life – in the same way that unfocused, unproductive, and mediocre mornings generate unfocused, unproductive, and mediocre days and ultimately a mediocre quality of life. By simply changing the way you wake up in the morning, you can transform any area of your life, faster than you ever thought possible.” – Hal Elrod

Up until November, I had pretty much resigned to the life of a “Night Owl”. “I was born that way!” I said. No, really though, I was that baby that slept until 9:30am at two months old. *cough* You’re welcome, Mom. *cough* But in my pursuit to build a happy life, I started to notice a pattern. No matter the theme of the month, my featured gurus were …. (more…)

Attitude & Gratitude Experiment #3: Using The Law of Attraction

What kind of a day are you having? A good day? Like a really good day? A 10? AMAZING!

Oh, but what if you’re having an awful day? One of those “when it rains, it pours” kind of days… eeyoreOr worst of all, you can’t even rank the kind of day you’ve been having because you don’t even remember what you ate for breakfast this morning. The day blends in because it’s the same boring routine.

What if I told you that regardless of whether you’re having an amazing day or an awful day… you caused it!? (more…)

Attitude & Gratitude Experiment #2: Trigger Happy

Hello! I am grateful for you.

I am grateful that you are here, reading my blog. Is that weird? Maybe. I am grateful for this moment and I’m not even a part of it. YOU are the one reading this. I don’t know when you’re reading it, or where, and it’s possible I don’t even know YOU. Nevertheless, I am grateful that it’s happyning. (← See what I did there?😉)

I am grateful every time I sit down at my laptop to write. Not because I am Gandhi or anything, living in a constant state of gratitude… although that would be lovely. No. It’s because I set up “sitting down to write” as a trigger for (more…)

Attitude & Gratitude Experiment #1: The Bright Side Filter

at·ti·tude (noun)

one’s position in relation to an issue, object or circumstance.

Your attitude is a matter of perspective. My question at the beginning of this month was this: If I could train myself to consistently position myself on the brighter side of every situation, would I want to? And if I did, would I be ignoring potentially serious problems?

I want to be absolutely positive that I can be absolutely positive, without losing perspective.

positivepsychologyI was raised to be acutely aware of (more…)

Family & Friends Experiment #4: Send Birthday Cards, Not Texts

Between “The Power of Love Notes” and my admiration of Happiness Guru Kelli Davis’s project, Happster Mail… I think I’ve made it clear I’m a sucker for old-school communication. I’m a romantic, so sue me! (Oh yeah, and I’m bringing back “So sue me.”)

Today’s experiment was invented at the crossroads of two major events in my life: my wedding & the passing of my great grandfather, BTO. Do allow me to explain…

Somewhere in the midst of my Pinterest-wedding-planning-blackhole, I discovered the brilliant idea to replace a standard “guest book” with a personalized calendar. Each guest signed their name on their birthday, so at the end, I had a calendar full of my loved ones’ birthdates! Brilliant. Right?

DSC_2020Admittedly, when we got home from our honeymoon, I hung it up and aside from giving my friends and family a birthday phone call, didn’t do much with it. UNTIL, my great grandfather passed away.

This legendary man, aptly nicknamed BTO (Big Time Operator), was an anomaly in his non-digital age. He kept record of EVERYTHING. He was a father to 7 children, who yielded 21 grandkids, who gave him 35 great grandkids (including me), and finally 16 great great grandkids. And that’s not even the impressive part. He managed to hand-write cards to each of us on our birthdays, Christmas, Easter, Valentines Day, I’m pretty sure one year I even got a card on Groundhogs Day.

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The man, the myth, the legend card writer on his 100th birthday party with a gallon of tequila in a rifle bottle.

In each card, was a crisp dollar bill, for big birthdays, a fiver. My cousins and I would joke,

“If I had a dollar bill for every time BTO sent me a card… oh wait..”

When he passed away we were all grief stricken. I felt suffocated by the idea that his traditions would die with him. We all had our favorite memories with him, some of hunting, some of strawberry picking, but mine was DEFINITELY the letter writing. He also did this weird thing. He would include 3-5 printed pictures he had recently snapped of friends on his disposable camera. Half the time I had no idea who was even in the photo! But one thing was clear, he cared about me and he cared about them. He was so DAMN proud of his family and friends and wanted everyone to know how much he loved them, even if all he had to gift was one dollar and a few polaroids.

This year, I started this experiment and would be moved BEYOND THE STARS, if you would help me carry on the tradition of love and giving, in honor of my BTO.

Here’s what you do:

1. Get a calendar and fill it in with the birth dates of your friends and family.

2. Send a CARD or LETTER (NOT a text or fb post) wishing your loved ones a happy birthday/happy holiday!

3. Include a single dollar bill and write “BTO” on it.

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May you and your loved ones get as much joy and happiness from this small gesture as I did from my sweet and thoughtful BTO.