What kind of a day are you having? A good day? Like a really good day? A 10? AMAZING!
Oh, but what if you’re having an awful day? One of those “when it rains, it pours” kind of days… Or worst of all, you can’t even rank the kind of day you’ve been having because you don’t even remember what you ate for breakfast this morning. The day blends in because it’s the same boring routine.
What if I told you that regardless of whether you’re having an amazing day or an awful day… you caused it!? (more…)
This past week, I had two mornings in a row where I woke up and was immediately bombarded with distractions, unexpected issues, bad moods, and stressful interactions. I just felt “off” and was in no mood to write about positivity.
Sorry. It just wasn’t gonna happen.
So I did what I always do? I picked up my phone and (more…)
I am grateful that you are here, reading my blog. Is that weird? Maybe. I am grateful for this moment and I’m not even a part of it. YOU are the one reading this. I don’t know when you’re reading it, or where, and it’s possible I don’t even know YOU. Nevertheless, I am grateful that it’s happyning. (← See what I did there?😉)
I am grateful every time I sit down at my laptop to write. Not because I am Gandhi or anything, living in a constant state of gratitude… although that would be lovely. No. It’s because I set up “sitting down to write” as a trigger for (more…)
Since starting my journey with Happiness Experiments, I have been on an emotional rollercoaster. Sometimes I want to high five myself. Sometimes I want to scream at myself. Sometimes I pat myself on the back. And frequently I ask, in my best Carrie from Homeland ugly cry…
I’m supposed to be the happiness scientist here, right? Doesn’t that mean I should pretty much have sunshine shooting out of my ass at all times? Well, no. And as it turns out, it’s not because I’m a failure! Hooray! In fact, I’m going to share with you why looking at my negative emotions has helped me make my GREATEST HAPPINESS DISCOVERY YET.
And here it is: We struggle to feel and maintain deep happiness because we fear or focus on the hurdles we must conquer first.
There is no elevator to happiness. For that kind of meaning, ya gotta take the stairs.
For every desire I have, there are “happstacles” (happiness obstacles) that we must first overcome. I hope that by identifying some of the most common happstacles, I can help you appreciate the journey even when it feels more agonizing than fun.
I wanted to explain it further, so I thought I’d bring you into my living room and let you listen while following along with the Desire/Happstacle Chart below!
Deep happiness often lies on the other side of your happstacles. So instead of feeling daunted in the face of discomfort, EMBRACE IT. Change your mindset. The happstacle you’ve happened upon is not a roadblock, it’s your yellow brick road. Follow it!
one’s position in relation to an issue, object or circumstance.
Your attitude is a matter of perspective. My question at the beginning of this month was this: If I could train myself to consistently position myself on the brighter side of every situation, would I want to? And if I did, would I be ignoring potentially serious problems?
I want to be absolutely positive that I can be absolutely positive, without losing perspective.